Dating a man who is seperated
Jumping into a new relationship will also complicate his divorce tremendously. If you care about this guy or maybe see some potential, you – yes you – can make his divorce a lot longer, more painful, and a lot more expensive. You have no idea the truth, you have no idea of their marriage dynamics, and you shouldn’t be in the midst of it. If you find out your guy is in this situation, tell him to call you back when his marriage is OVER. I didn’t start dating in earnest for seven months post-split and when I did, there was zero chance of any reconciliation ever. If you find yourself post-split and are ready to start dating, you need to think very clearly about your motives. You must focus on you, your children, your divorce proceedings, and your life first. I wouldn't want to be nursemaid to someone who is still in a bad place, or with someone who has problematic behaviour patterns which could recur.I'm separated and not yet divorced and not actively pursuing the divorce thing yet either.If you need help urgently, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide, which can point you to expert advice and support. Yes, I do Both my DP and I are separated but not divorced.I know someone who's dating a man who is separated for two years but not divorced. We are both waiting for two years separation before divorcing. Neither he nor his wife have filed for divorce yet, nor seem to have any intention of doing so.
Knowing that it’s ending is sad and traumatic – as it should be. As such, you need to allow their marriage to end before you hop in. And try to justify it all you want, a recently separated guy is still married. Almost the worst kind of married– the one in the middle of a HUGE relationship crisis.
Seriously, if you meet a guy who has just split from his wife you really have to wonder about his emotional maturity and character. He has no business jumping into a relationship with you or anyone else and, if you proceed knowing full well his history, shame on you.
He is one damaged guy and why is he jumping back into another relationship? You are enabling him to continue hiding and ignoring and deflecting.
As a result of working through it, I ditched another relationship because I realised I wanted time to myself to be single.
I guess that's my main concern - not just that the divorce may end the relationship full stop, but that it may take him a lot longer to reach the 'next stage; than her - leading to arguments about commitment issues, etc.
It's not just the 'official' leaving, but state of admin between them.